Parenting has become stranger than ever. And the pressure to be a good parent has become higher than ever. However, we seem to be more worried about being “good parents” than actually raising humans. And the elusive definition of a “good parent”, even though it varies from culture to culture, nowadays is more under attack from peer and media pressure than ever.
Instead of knowing what your child doesn’t need and what they really need, every parent often faces situations in which the focus is shifted to whether they are doing everything humanely possible to give their child a carefree and happy childhood. This often comes at a cost of neglecting the true goal of parenting and getting swept up in a tide of competitive consumerism.
The seeming transparency of our lives through social media, makes us guilt ridden, as we see other parents in picture perfect scenarios, doing almost everything from a retail catalog of a happy family corpus of activities.
After much thinking, I put down what I personally think we should focus on more, as parents.
This is what your child needs:
- Health care
- Freedom to be their own self
To be happy, your child doesn’t need:
- to show off how successful/rich you are
- the latest gadgets, fashionable items
- to be constantly entertained by you
- to put up with your political/religious convictions
- to have an expensively furnished room according to their current interest
- to be the representation of your parenting achievements
- to live out the things you didn’t have the chance/opportunity to
Sometimes recognizing what your child doesn’t need is so delicate because of the societal and peer pressure. Stay strong and remember that you are helping a person grow up, you are not creating a creature that should fit your own standards and represent you in any way.
What would you add to those lists?